You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect, you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she maked you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there. -Bob Marley.
The secret isn’t to find someone you love spending time with - I love spending time with a lot of people. The secret isn’t to find someone that you find attractive - I find a lot of people attractive for many different reasons. The secret isn’t to find someone who is nice- there are tons of nice people in the world. The secret is to find someone who wantsexactly what you want. Someone who is ready to give you all they’ve got, and in turn be ready to accept all the love you have to give. The world is filled with people in relationship teeter-totters of “loves you more” & “I have to act mean so they will like me back” or “I am just not ready.” Please do not waste any more of your precious time. You are an amazing creature. You deserve to be loved until your insides melt. Don’t give up on all the things you want. When you meet the right person you will have zero doubt in your mind. Zero.
I don’t get attached. I don’t want a relationship unless you can prove to me you’re not all the same. No, your words don’t mean shit to me. No, I don’t trust you. No, I don’t believe you. Promises are nothing but empty words to me. I know I’m not your one and only so don’t tell me I am. No, my smile doesn’t make your day. No, my laughter isn’t music to your ears. No, I’m not too good to be true so start with the truth. If I’m what you want, tell me why and tell me often, tell me you love me, but only if you mean it.
Lord of the Rings is on TV! My Sunday has just been made. I adore the relationship between Legolas and Gimli<3
Gimli: [failing to see over the wall] What’s happening out there? Legolas: Shall I describe it to you? Gimli: [turns] Hmm? Legolas: Or would you like me to find you a box? [Gimli laughs]
[during the Battle of Helm’s Deep, Gimli has killed an Uruk-Hai warrior] Gimli: Legolas! Two already! Legolas: I’m on seventeen! Gimli: Huh? I’ll have no pointy-ear outscoring me! [kills another one] Legolas: [shoots two more arrows] Nineteen!
Legolas: Final count, forty-two. Gimli: Forty-two? Oh, that’s not bad for a pointy-eared elvish princeling. Hmph! I myself am sitting pretty on forty-THREE. Legolas: [takes out an arrow, and shoots the Uruk Gimli is sitting on in the stomach] Forty-three. Gimli: He was already dead! Legolas: He was twitching. Gimli: He was *twitching* because he’s got my axe EMBEDDED IN HIS NERVOUS SYSTEM! [rattles the handle of his ax; the Uruk’s arms and legs twitch]
Words That Don't Exist in the English Language (But Should!)
So I’ve been compiling this list for a little while, I think “Toska”, “Hyggelig”, and “Wabi-Sabi” are my favorite words.
Toska (Russian):Vladmir Nabokov describes it best: “No single word in English renders all the shades of toska. At its deepest and most painful, it is a sensation of great spiritual anguish, often without any specific cause. At less morbid levels it is a dull ache of the soul, a longing with nothing to long for, a sick pining, a vague restlessness, mental throes, yearning. In particular cases it may be the desire for somebody of something specific, nostalgia, love-sickness. At the lowest level it grades into ennui, boredom.”
Duende (Spanish): While originally used to describe a mythical, spritelike entity that possesses humans and creates the feeling of awe of one’s surroundings in nature, its meaning has transitioned into referring to “the mysterious power that a work of art has to deeply move a person.” There’s actually a nightclub in the town of La Linea de la Concepcion, where I teach, named after this word.
Sambo (Swedish): two people who live together, may have children, but are not married.
Lagom (Swedish): not too much, not too little, perfect, just right.
L’esprit de escalier: (French) The feeling you get after leaving a conversation, when you think of all the things you should have said. Translated it means “the spirit of the staircase.”
Waldeinsamkeit: (German) The feeling of being alone in the woods.
Meraki: (Greek) Doing something with soul, creativity, or love.
Forelsket: (Norwegian) The euphoria you experience when you are first falling in love.
Gheegle: (Filipino) The urge to pinch or squeeze something that is unbearably cute.
Pochemuchka: (Russian) A person who asks a lot of questions.
Pena ajena: (Mexican Spanish) The embarrassment you feel watching someone else’s humiliation.
Cualacino: (Italian) The mark left on a table by a cold glass.
Ilunga: (Tshiluba, Congo) A person who is ready to forgive any abuse for the first time, to tolerate it a second time, but never a third time.
Taarradhin (Arabic): a way of resolving a problem without anyone losing face (not the same as our concept of a compromise – everyone wins)
Litost (Czech): a state of torment created by the sudden sight of one’s own misery
Tingo (Pascuense language of Easter Island): to borrow objects one by one from a neighbour’s house until there is nothing left
Saudade (Portuguese): One of the most beautiful of all words, translatable or not, this word “refers to the feeling of longing for something or someone that you love and which is lost.” Fado music, a type of mournful singing, relates to saudade.
Mamihlapinatapei (Yagan, indigenous language of Tierra del Fuego): “the wordless, yet meaningful look shared by two people who both desire to initiate something but are both reluctant to start”
Jayus (Indonesian): “A joke so poorly told and so unfunny that one cannot help but laugh”
Iktsuarpok (Inuit): “To go outside to check if anyone is coming.”
Litost (Czech): Milan Kundera, author of The Unbearable Lightness of Being, remarked that “As for the meaning of this word, I have looked in vain in other languages for an equivalent, though I find it difficult to imagine how anyone can understand the human soul without it.” The closest definition is a state of agony and torment created by the sudden sight of one’s own misery.
Tartle (Scottish): The act of hestitating while introducing someone because you’ve forgotten their name.
Prozvonit (Czech): This word means to call a mobile phone and let it ring once so that the other person will call back, saving the first caller money. In Spanish, the phrase for this is “Dar un toque,” or, “To give a touch.”
Cafuné (Brazilian Portuguese): “The act of tenderly running one’s fingers through someone’s hair.”
Schadenfreude (German): Quite famous for its meaning that somehow other languages neglected to recognize, this refers to the feeling of pleasure derived by seeing another’s misfortune. I guess “America’s Funniest Moments of Schadenfreude” just didn’t have the same ring to it.
Torschlusspanik (German) : Translated literally, this word means “gate-closing panic,” but its contextual meaning refers to “the fear of diminishing opportunities as one ages.”
Wabi-Sabi (Japanese): Much has been written on this Japanese concept, but in a sentence, one might be able to understand it as “a way of living that focuses on finding beauty within the imperfections of life and accepting peacefully the natural cycle of growth and decay.”
Dépaysement (French): The feeling that comes from not being in one’s home country.
Hyggelig (Danish): Its “literal” translation into English gives connotations of a warm, friendly, cozy demeanor, but it’s unlikely that these words truly capture the essence of a hyggelig; it’s likely something that must be experienced to be known. I think of good friends, cold beer, and a warm fire
L’appel du vide (French): “The call of the void” is this French expression’s literal translation, but more significantly it’s used to describe the instinctive urge to jump from high places.
Ya’aburnee (Arabic): Both morbid and beautiful at once, this incantatory word means “You bury me,” a declaration of one’s hope that they’ll die before another person because of how difficult it would be to live without them.
Right now, I’m afraid that he’ll forget me. That I’m disposable, not indisposable like I originally thought. Uncertainty, when it comes to the person you love, is one the most painful feelings there is. It eats away at you.
I guess it’s a good thing that I know you better than you know yourself—that’s the one thing that gives me some peace of mind. You know how you feel, you just don’t want to admit/accept it. It’s okay, I’m patient (but only when it comes to you). I can wait. But what if there’s the small chance that I’m wrong, and you don’t feel what I think you do? This is when the uncertainty kicks in. This is what keeps me awake at night, tossing and turning. Let the “eating away” at me begin.
iPod shuffle: day 3 3. First song to come on your shuffle that makes you sad; why does it make you sad?
I don’t really have too many songs in my iTunes that make me sad….the closest thing right now is: “Don’t You Wanna Stay” by Jason Aldean (feat Kelly Clarkson). This isn’t a particularly sad song, but it really hits home for me because it reminds me of a certain someone that I wish I had in my life right now. It’s a complicated situation, but I often find myself relating to this song especially because whenever he leaves, I’m always wondering if he would want to stay…doesn’t he want to stay here with me?
iPod shuffle: day 2
2. First song to come on your shuffle that makes you happy; why does it make you happy?
“Hey Ya” by Outkast. This song takes me back to last summer, specifically to one of my last days at work. I worked as a pool lifeguard and had a really miserable manager—having such awesome coworkers helped to make putting up with her a little easier. On one of my last few days of work (my last day working with a particular coworker) before going back to school, my coworker (Sarah) and I decided that since the pool was pretty dead, we were going to amuse ourselves by rocking out to the radio. This song has such a catchy beat, you just can’t help but dance along with it. Needless to say, we rocked out hard…much to the amusement of some of the people laying out. No matter where I am—work, car, sitting on the bus at RU—when this song comes on, I have to rock out (no matter how badly my dancing skills suck)
Day 1 - First song to come on your shuffle; why it is on your iPod, what significance does it hold?
Your Guardian Angel by The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus. I originally only downloaded it because I was looking for songs by The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus, so I just clicked on a bunch of them. Most of those songs I have long since deleted, but this one I kept…because it is such an amazing song. With lyrics such as:
It’s okay. It’s okay. It’s okay. Seasons are changing And waves are crashing And stars are falling all for us Days grow longer and nights grow shorter I can show you I’ll be the one
I will never let you fall I’ll stand up with you forever I’ll be there for you through it all Even if saving you sends me to heaven
it’s hard not to get caught up in the incredible meaning of this song.
I like to think that I have my own “guardian angel” watching out for me somewhere.