My best guy friend at school and I used to hook up . He got all emo and withdrawn when another guy came along and started paying me attention, because he didnt want to lose me. When that stopped he was so happy to be with me and have me back. But then nothing ever came of it. Eventually, I decided to end our hook up.
There’s still a TON of sexual tension between us. It’s even worse now. And hes always putting me in sexual situations and making sexual comments to me. The other night we were buzzed and I brought it up and called him out. Even though he acknowledges the tension is there, he doesn’t want to do anything about it, because we’re “better as friends”. Even though we’ve never been anything more, because we never dated. When we were hooking up it was a FWB type thing, the only thing that changed was that we actually hooked up—how we acted around each other never did. Literally there’s no difference, except a lot more sexual frustration.
It was confusing to me because of all the situations and flirting he was doing, I thought he was interested in me. But apparently he’s not. And he was always just kidding. And that kind of pissed me off and hurt my feelings. He literally joked about kissing me in the middle of Five Guys the other day. Buttt he also said that he knew I’d never act on the sexual tension, so I guess he just got his rocks off putting me in those situations for the “joke” aspect of it…not because he actually wanted anything to happen.
So to summarize: is sexually attracted to me, lots of sexual tension, but doesn’t want to actually do anything about it…he just wants to ignore it?? And friendzoned me at the same time. “I told you i see you as my best girl friend..thats why i thought it was okay to play around”
Who jokes around sexually with their “best friend” that they’re attracted to but doesn’t plan on doing anything about it?? Call me crazy but I thought best friend + sexual attraction was commitment material.
Someone please explain his thought process to me, because I really don’t understand this.
For the record. Fhdhskakdjfjgk grrr. AGAIN.